Friends and relatives that live in other cities or states, and possibly overseas, may be invited to share your special day. They will incur expenses such as hotels, meals, gas, and car rentals, just to name a few. These expenses are in addition to bridal shower and wedding gifts.

Why not do something special to show this group of people your gratitude? These are some small and subtle ways to show your appreciation:

Deliver gift baskets to the hotels where they will be staying, that they will receive upon arrival. Include a small bottle of wine, crackers, and candy. Put a small note inside, including directions from their hotel to your house, the church, and reception. Include several postcards/brochures about areas of interest in your hometown.

Have the father of the bride and groom make a special toast at the reception, and have the out of town guests stand up and receive applause.

Make a basket with fruit, cookies, and chips, to enjoy on their return home.

Send them postcards from your honeymoon.

When you get back from your honeymoon, make a personal call. Leave a message on the answering machine, if necessary.

Thank them by e-mail, and tell them about some of the beautiful sites/restaurants/hotels that were part of your honeymoon.

On the bottom or back of your wedding program, an expression of thanks to out of town guests is very appropriate and makes for a lasting keepsake.

"We are blessed today to express our love in the presence of God, our parents, our brothers and sisters, family, and friends. Our hearts are filled with gratitude, especially for those who have traveled far to be with us. May God grant you a safe and happy journey home."