The reason is that often when a man is out on a date, his body is there, but his soul is not - which means his mind and his will are elsewhere. And, since most men have difficulty thinking and feeling at the same time, on the first few dates he's not likely to be thinking about you as a whole person. Rather, what he's mostly feeling is lust, and he's concentrating primarily on getting you into the sack. Later, when he's alone and no longer eyeing your body, he can begin to think about you as a human being. It is then that he may decide that, for whatever reason, you and he are not right for each other. In other words, once he is alone, he has to distill everything he's learned about you to decide whether or not to call back. Waiting is hell, but I maintain that a man is not gone unless it has been eight weeks, because it can take that log for him to process a decision. For four weeks, a man can usually keep himself busy dating, working, and living without you. But if he is really interested, somewhere between six and eight weeks he will begin to miss you, and then he will call. Can you call him? No, not if you're calling to ask him out. If he left something at your house, sure you can then call and arrange to have it returned, and to give him the opportunity to ask you out. If you're planning to attend an event that you think he might enjoy, you can ask him to escort you and join a group of people. If you're having a party, you can invite him. But you must not ask him out on a date unless you are prepared to be the man in the relationship. So when you go out on a date, put his name down on a calendar. If he doesn't call in eight weeks, he doesn't like you. But by that time, you are not likely to care. |
