What is your perfect Valentines Day fantasy? Is it romantic? adventurous? shared with friends? or a cozy two-some? Do you envision the traditional card, box of chocolates and roses? Or would you rather plan a spontaneous, fun get-awayor watch classic movies in front of a warm fire?

I composed my first Roses are red, violets are blue note to my second grade sweat heart when I was 8 years old. Until my mid- thirties, Valentines Day represented the height of the perfect romantic fantasy that I saw in movies or created in my very active imagination. In other words, I was a hopeless and helpless romantic.

It came as quite a shock, after my divorce at age 35, that I had no idea how to be a partner in a loving relationship and feel whole, or fall in love and stay true to me, or seek love without losing myself. And when one of my respected teachers from those years suggested that loving was a choice, not a feeling - I was astounded! This did not thrill the happily ever after dreams of my adolescence.

But today, older, grayer, married again and still a romantic I know that the perfect sweet heart gift that I want to receive on valentines day or any other day of the year comes wrapped in truth of my loving heart to me from me.

Have you ever considered sending yourself the perfect sweet heart gift on Valentines Day? Here are a few suggestions to consider.

My Perfect Valentine

The first item is a beautiful card from my Soul honoring all the love I have shared, expressed and demonstrated through out my life. As I read this tender note my heart opens receiving the gift of self-appreciation for keeping my heart intact despite past disappointments, rejection, abandonment, misunderstanding and betrayal. Opening the heart in the midst of hurt is a masterful choice.

The second item is a delicious caramel-filled chocolate goodie of self-acceptance. As I unwrap this delectable treat and pop it in my mouth I taste the richness of accepting all parts of me. For when I accept I no longer judge and this grace is also extended to others. I savor the yumminess of embracing my humanity with compassion.

Next is one perfect pink rose representing the sweetness of self-forgiveness. Giving myself the gift of releasing judgment, shame and blame for past regrets, mistakes, what ifs, if onlys expands my heart. Self-forgiveness releases the fragrance of my divinity and all are blessed.

And finally, in my box of personal valentines, is a simple keythe key to my heart. By demonstrating loyalty to my Soul I maintain the integrity of my loving. And I experience the wisdom of the wordsTo live well is to love well.

So unleash that inner creative romantic and fashion the perfect valentine this month! Dont wait another minute to give and receive your hearts desire. The world needs more love, not less of it. The supply is unlimited. Be your perfect Valentine!

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